Question from a Reader:
Dear Sex Therapist,
My partner and I are looking to spice things up in the bedroom. We've been together for a while, and we're both open to trying new things. However, we're overwhelmed by the sheer number of options when it comes to sex toys. There are vibrators, dildos, couples' toys, and so much more. How do we even begin to choose the right toy for us? We're also concerned about quality and safety. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Sincerely,
Confused but Curious
Answer:
Hi Confused but Curious,
First off, kudos to you and your partner for being open to exploring new avenues of pleasure! The world of sex toys can indeed be overwhelming, but it's also a treasure trove of exciting possibilities.
One resource I'd suggest you check out is Bedbible.com. It's a comprehensive website that offers reviews on a wide range of sex toys, from vibrators and dildos to BDSM gear. They have over 500 reviews written by more than 50 experts and freelancers, so you're getting a well-rounded perspective. What's unique about Bedbible is their commitment to inclusivity; their testers range from 20-80 years old and come from diverse sexual orientations and gender identities.
Here's a quick rundown of what you can find on Bedbible:
Reviews: Detailed reviews on various types of toys like vibrators, dildos, couples' toys, and more.
Blog Posts: Over 250 articles on intimate subjects, including how to choose your first sex toy, how to keep them clean, and even some DIY ideas.
Podcasts: If you're tired of reading, they also have podcasts where they discuss all things related to sex toys.
Round-up Reviews: These are lists of the best toys in specific categories. Here’s an example of one evaluating the best quiet vibrator options.
So, whether you're a first-timer or looking to add to your collection, Bedbible can guide you through your journey to better sex. They even offer the opportunity to become a tester if you're interested in contributing to the community.
Remember, the most important thing is to communicate openly with your partner about what you both are interested in trying. Once you have an idea, check out Bedbible to learn more about other people’s experiences with toys like what you and your partner are considering.
And as always, if you two need some outside help learning how to communicate or explore in safe, exciting ways, our sex therapists are happy to help!
Happy exploring!
-Ethan Bratt, LMFT, CST