The old saying is that you have to take care of yourself because no one else will. I'd argue that at the heart of it, no one else can truly take care of you. Too often though, people who are hurting and struggling inside keep turning to other people and other things trying to feel better only to find one disappointment after another. In the end, they're right back where they started.
Healthy and happy start with you and you alone. When individuals come in for counseling, I start by creating a relaxed atmosphere where they feel safe and are reassured that they've found someone who can help them truly face the issues they're experiencing, not just avoid them.
I've written about just a few of the issues I have helped individuals successfully address in their lives. If you want more information or have a question about something not specifically mentioned here, just get in touch.
(Depression, Bipolar, Anxiety/Panic, etc.)
If you struggle with worry, fear, discouragement, hopelessness, moments of panic, or feeling out of control, you're not alone. Nearly 1 in 10 people in America is struggling with a mood issue. I've worked with countless individuals who have re-discovered joy and reclaimed their life by learning to manage their mood disorder. I can help you do the same.
Stress and Life Management
Sometimes, the stress of life is overwhelming. Life may feel challenging or exhausting. You may be facing changes and new circumstances that leave you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or irritable. Don't wait until life is miserable or falling apart before you choose to get help. Working together, we can develop the skills you need to not only manage but actually enjoy all that home, work, and the rest of life brings to you.
Grief and Loss
Losing someone close to you is devastating. When you add to that the chaos of an unexpected death or the relief that can accompany a drawn-out passing, it can be even worse. Perhaps you may feel left behind as you see others picking up and moving on while you are stuck in your grief. If you are experiencing any of this trauma in your life, I can help you begin moving forward again in a way that honors the person you've lost while reclaiming your own life.
Finding Hope and spirituality
We all hit moments when we question what, or even if, we believe. We feel we've lost sight of the meaning in life that we used to see so quickly. Your struggle to reclaim hope and to develop your own spirituality (as opposed to religiosity) can be one of the most meaningful but difficult things you will do in your life. I can walk beside you along the path of self-inquiry and self-discovery, helping you to look deeply but remain grounded. This is some of the most rewarding counseling that I have the privilege of doing.
Trauma and Abuse Recovery
There are times when we go through more than we know how to handle, more than we are capable of dealing with on our own. These may be anything from a one-time, emotionally traumatic event to years-long patterns of physical or sexual abuse. Whether what you are struggling with what happened recently or something that is surfacing years later, I provide a safe space to carefully unpack those events and develop the support and skills you need to move forward and be happy again.
Society sends very clear messages to boys and men to "man up" or "be a man" and not show weakness. What men and boys end up learning is to ignore issues and emotionally disconnect from those around them.
If you or the man (or young man) in your life is dealing with this, I can help you face what society has taught you to avoid and start engaging emotionally with the people in your life.
Sometimes people use "Men's Issues" as a euphemism for issues with pornography. If this is what you were looking for, check out my Sex Therapy page.